Alex's Answer

Hi and welcome to Ask Alex.   

Thank you so much for contacting us today. We appreciate you reaching out to us. 

You have said that your stepdad slapped your butt twice a couple of years ago and you are wondering if that is considered sexual assault or sexual harassment. We are sorry to hear this happened to you, it must have been very upsetting for you but you have been very brave in reaching out. 

Firstly, we think it is important that you know that no one has the right to hurt you or harm you in any way. You have the right to feel safe and protected at all times.  

We also think it is important that we explore what sexual abuse is; “Sexual abuse or molestation is where a child or young person is used for the sexual stimulation of an adult or older adolescent.” You may find it helpful to read this article on our website: www.childline.ie/what-is-sexual-abuse/ 

You may also find it helpful to understand what physical abuse is. This involves a person using physical force against another person which causes or could cause them harm. It can be a single incident or something that is ongoing. Some examples of physical abuse could be slapping, hitting, pinching and kicking. Deliberately hurting someone in any way using physical force is physical abuse and is not okay. Children should not be punished physically, no matter their behaviour, and under the Children First Act 2015, someone that disciplines their child using physical punishment cannot use this as a defence. You can read more about abuse here: www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/   

In Ireland, every child and young person has the right to be protected from all forms of abuse. If you experience any kind of abuse, reach out to someone that can help you. This could be an adult you trust like a family member, a youth worker or a sports coach. If ever you are in immediate danger, you can contact the emergency services on 112 or 999  for free on any mobile phone or landline.   

You can always call Childline on 1800 66 66 66, or through our webchat at www.childline.ie. The Childline team is there to listen 24 hours a day, every day. Our services are free, confidential and non-judgemental. We will support you and explore the different options available to you, with you.       

We hope that you have found some of the information useful, thank you for sharing your question.

Take care of yourself,  

Alex