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Why do I want to be abused

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 Why do I want to be sexually abused and hit 


Hi There, 

Thanks for your question and well done for reaching out for help and support. You have said that you want to be sexually abused and hit. Is this something that has happened to you in the past or is it a fantasy you have? 

Sexual and physical abuse is never ok and if it is something you have experienced or are currently going through you have the right to get help and support. Do you have an adult that you trust in your life, whether it’s a parent, relative or teacher, to let them know what is happening? 

If you are not sure who you can trust or if you are worrying that you will be blamed or judged for what has happened, Childline is always there to listen and support you in making the right decision for you. There is a really good article on our Childline website that you might like to look at. 

Research says that abusive fantasies can serve as coping mechanisms; many people feel guilt and shame about their sexual fantasies. But sexual fantasies are universal, normal, and harmless even if they depict activities, you would never do in real life. There is nothing wrong with having these fantasies. Outside of our fantasy lives and in real life, when having sex and being intimate, it is crucial that each person gives their consent, as no one has the right to touch us without our permission. Sexual consent means agreeing to take part in all sexual activity. It is important to know too, that you can change your mind at any time. When consent is obtained this can result in healthy, safe, respectful, and enjoyable sexual experiences for all involved. You can learn more about consent here  

You are very welcome to talk to the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66, or through Live Chat on, anytime.  Childline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our services are free, non-judgmental, and confidential. Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk or chat, and we really would love to listen to you. Childline offers you the space to talk about whatever you choose. You don’t need to have a problem to get in touch with us, but we are here for you then too. We will explore what options are available to you, and you can come back to us as many times as you feel you need to.   

Remember, you are not alone.  Take care of yourself, we hope to hear from you soon,    


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