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Trying to spend time with my boyfriend

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alex i have strict parents and me nd my boyfriend been trying to see each other for so long we made plans in my friend dad house but it changed real quick because there was too many guys there now my boyfriend is upset because we got his hopes up for nothing and he cant go over to my friends mom house because shes not stupid and will know why he’s there at the same time

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Hey there, thanks for reaching out with your question.

It sounds like you’re going through a tough time. We want you to know that it’s totally ok to feel frustrated and disappointed when plans don’t work out, especially when you’ve been looking forward to spending time with your boyfriend.

Dealing with strict parents can be really challenging, and it can sometimes feel like there’s no way around their rules. It’s important to remember that your parents likely have your best interests at heart, even though it might not feel like it right now. Have you tried talking to them about how you’re feeling? Sometimes having an open and honest conversation with them can help them understand where you’re coming from.

As for your boyfriend, it’s understandable that he’s upset too. It’s not easy when things don’t go as planned, but it’s important to support each other through these disappointments. Maybe you and your boyfriend can brainstorm some alternative ways to spend time together that your parents would be okay with. It could be as simple as going for a walk in the park or having a video call. You may find this article helpful www.childline.ie/these-are-the-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship/

Remember, it’s okay to lean on your friends for support too. They might have some ideas or be able to offer a listening ear when you need it. And if you ever need someone to talk to who’s outside of your immediate circle, you can always reach out to Childline. We’re here for you 24/7, ready to listen and support you, whatever you’re going through. You can contact us by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Messenger at www.childline.ie (just click on the purple Messenger circle). We’re confidential, non-judgmental, and here for you anytime, for any reason.

We hope this helps you somewhat. Remember, we are here anytime you’d like to get in touch. Take care of yourself,

Alex

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