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Troubled about my father's behaviour

My biological father comes in my room at late night and touches me in upper thighs. He also tries to put his hand in my undies. I am troubled and don't know what to do.

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Hi there, thanks for your question.

Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to talk about something so difficult, and we want you to know that you’re not alone. 
 
We’re really sorry that you’re experiencing this troubling situation with your biological father. No one should ever feel unsafe or uncomfortable in their own home, especially at the hands of a family member. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling troubled and unsure of what to do. What your father is doing to you is very wrong. This article may help you better understand his behaviour www.childline.ie/what-is-sexual-abuse/.
 
Your safety is the most important thing, and there are people and resources available to help you. If you ever feel unsafe or in immediate danger, please don’t hesitate to call the Gardaí at 999 or 112. They are there to protect you and ensure your well-being.
 
Do you have an adult that you trust and feel comfortable talking to? Someone who can support you and get you the help that you need, and deserve. Túsla, the Child and Family Agency in Ireland, have a team of social workers who’s job it is to make sure every young person in Ireland, under the age of 18, is living in a safe home. Here is a list of the services they provide www.tusla.ie/services/; however, you may need the help of an adult to access them.
 
In addition, you can reach out to Childline for support and guidance. We have a trained team of people available 24/7 who can listen to you, offer support, and explore your options with you in a confidential and non-judgmental way. You can contact us for free at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on www.Childline.ie.
 
Remember, you deserve to feel safe and respected at all times. What your father is doing to you is not your fault, and you have the right to get help and support. You are stronger than you know, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through this difficult time.
 
Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out if you need further assistance or guidance. You’re not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future.
 
Alex

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