Alex's Answer
I can't change my body
Your Question
ive turned 13 a couple weeks ago and ive had my period for 2 years but for some reason my body barely changed like my chest grew the slightest bit so i am really flat same with my legs like my hips theyve stayed the same and since im quite skinny people always comment on it it like for example a person that is bigger than me and has all the features i want could be like ‘Omg, im so fat i wish i was skinny like you’ or ‘your so lucky ur skinny’ but in reality i really hate being this way and a girl from primary (who was visibily bigger than me) used to always use the fact that im flat and skinny as an insult.. its making me really sad and i dont know what i should do because i cant change my body and i hate that. what to do? thanks alex
Answer
Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, but we also know how important it is to talk about our worries.
You have mentioned that despite having your period for two years, you feel that your body has not yet experienced all the changes that puberty brings. This is totally normal, as there is no set age for these changes, because all bodies change and grow in their own time. Genetics, hormonal factors, and overall health can influence this process. Some girls may notice changes earlier or later than their peers. Remember, these changes are a natural part of growing up, and there’s no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to body development.
It’s understandable that comments from other girls would make you feel sad, but like you have said, you cannot control when these changes happen, so it is important to embrace your body. Try not to let the insults of others bring you down. Everyone experiences insecurities at some point, you are not alone, and it’s okay to look for support. Friends, family, or a trusted adult can be great sources of understanding. And remember, your self-worth is not determined by your physical appearance.
Here are some articles you may find helpful www.childline.ie/what-exactly-happens-to-your-body-and-mind-during-puberty/ and www.childline.ie/draft-how-to-learn-to-love-the-way-you-look/ , as well as the following video which can be found here www.childline.ie/puberty/.
If you would like to chat about this in more detail, you are very welcome to chat with the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through our Live Chat on www.childline.ie. Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.
Thank you for reaching out to us.
Look after yourself,
Alex