Alex's Answer

Hi, welcome to Ask Alex. Thank you for your question. It sounds like you are trying to figure out how to deal with anger. 

Have you ever spoken with your parents or another trusted adult about your anger? We know it’s not always easy to talk with those closest to us, but it would be important to let them know that it can be hard for you to deal with anger, and that you would like help with that. 

It can be tough to keep things calm when we are feeling the very opposite. Perhaps having some space might be helpful, then trying to talk about what went on later when you and others have calmed down, rather than trying to discuss things in the heat of the moment. When we are feeling angry and stressed, sometimes breathing exercises can help us calm our body down. Have you ever tried the Square Breathing technique, where you inhale through your nose for a count of four, hold that breath for a count of four, and then exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of four, holding the breath for a count of four. You can repeat this sequence for a couple of minutes, and by relaxing your body, it may help you respond to the situation that has made you angry in a different way.  

There are also a couple of other types of breathing exercises demonstrated here that may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/video-breathing-and-relaxation-exercises-to-help-you-release-your-worries/. There is an article on the Childline website which may give you some guidance for dealing with anger www.childline.ie/working-out-anger/ if you would like to read it. 

Maybe you would like to contact us here at Childline, via our Live Chat button on this website, or over the phone on 1800 66 66 66. We can talk about your emotions and how you are feeling. There is always someone here to listen, 24/7. These services are free, confidential and non-judgmental. We would love to hear from you anytime. Remember, you are not alone. 

Take care of yourself,  

Alex