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Dad beats me

Your Question

I am 13 and my dad still hits me and beats me with a belt for taking a laptop to text my friends that are boys and girls but I have all that taken away because I did something with a guy over 3 months ago and I’m not allowed to have anything to talk to boys on, should my dad still hit me for that? and should I be able to get a phone?

Answer

Hi there, thank you for reaching out to Ask Alex.

It’s very brave of you to contact us as we know it’s not always easy to talk about things going on at home.  We are sorry to hear how you feel and what is happening to you.

We want you to know that the use of physical violence is not okay, and we are concerned for your wellbeing. If you are ever in immediate danger or harm, you can contact emergency services on  999  or  112  from any mobile or landline, free of charge. 

It’s important for you to know that you have the right to feel safe in your home and it is the role of parents and caregivers to protect young people and children. 

Do you have an adult in your life that you connect with and feel safe with? It could be grandparent, other parent, teacher, aunt/uncle. It is very important to speak with a trusted adult in your life about what is happening at home. Could you share with them what is happening and how you feel?

There are some articles on the Childline website which may also help you with the problems you are facing at the moment:   www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/ and  www.childline.ie/getting-help/;

You do not have to go through this alone and it’s important to know that it is not your fault.

If you feel that you cannot talk to somebody you know just yet, then Childline is here for you, to listen to you in a non-judgemental manner. At Childline we are focused on you and what is important to you. The services are free and available 24 hours a day. You can contact us through our telephone service by calling 1800 66 66 66 or by Live Chat that you access through the website: www.childline.ie

We are proud of you for reaching out to us as we understand that it was probably not an easy thing for you to do.

Please get in touch with us soon, so we can go through your options with you. Keep yourself safe,

Alex

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