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Worried about hurting my girlfriend

Your Question

I’m fat will I be able to have sex or will I squash my girlfriend


Hello there!
Firstly, we want to welcome you and say well done for reaching out with such a vulnerable question. It takes a lot of courage to open up about concerns regarding intimacy and relationships, especially when it involves body image. Please know that you’re not alone in this, and it’s completely okay to have these thoughts and feelings.
Feeling self-conscious about your body, especially when it comes to being intimate with someone, is a common concern for many teenagers. It’s important to remember that everyone’s body is different, and there’s no one “right” or “perfect” body type for intimacy. What truly matters is mutual respect, communication, and consent between you and your partner.
You mentioned being worried about squashing your girlfriend because of your weight. It’s understandable to have such concerns, but it’s important to have open and honest conversations with your partner about boundaries, comfort levels, and any physical limitations either of you may have. Communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to intimacy.
Before deciding to engage in any intimate activities, it’s crucial to educate yourself about consent, safe sex, and healthy relationships. Websites like provide valuable resources and information about these topics, helping you make informed decisions and ensuring that both you and your partner are comfortable and respected.
Remember, you are never alone in going through these feelings and concerns. Organisations like Childline are here to support you, listen to you, and provide guidance without judgment. Whether you want to talk on the phone (1800 66 66 66) or chat online (through Live Chat at, Childline offers confidential support 24/7, so don’t hesitate to reach out whenever you need someone to talk to.
Take care of yourself, and know that you are never alone,

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