Alex's Answer

why do I feel better when I'm sad

Your Question

why do i feel more comfortable in my sadness then i do when im happy


Hey there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,
You are asking us why you feel better when you are sad, than when you are happy.
We want to you know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. It’s completely okay to have difficult and different emotions, especially during your teenage years when you’re going through a lot of changes. It takes courage to open up about your feelings, and we’re here to support you through them.
We are not healthcare professionals in Childline, but we can say feeling more comfortable in sadness than happiness can sometimes be linked to a sense of familiarity. Sadness might feel like a more predictable emotion, something you’ve learned to cope with over time. When you’re happy, there could be a fear of the unknown or a worry that the positive feelings might not last. It’s important to recognise these patterns and understand that it’s okay to embrace happiness and explore those moments of joy.
It might also be helpful to reflect on the sources of your happiness and sadness. Are there specific situations or triggers that make you feel either way? Understanding the roots of your emotions can be an important step in managing them. And remember, it’s okay to look and ask for support. You don’t have to go through these feelings alone. You can talk to an adult you trust and if needed, they could take you to receive medical help, as you have the right to get any support you need. You may find this article helpful
If you ever feel overwhelmed or just need someone to talk to, the Childline team is here for you 24/7. You can reach out to us at 1800 66 66 66 or connect through Live Chat at We’re here to listen, support you, and explore your options together. You are not alone in this journey, and there are people who care about you.
Take care of yourself, and please reach out for a chat soon,

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