Alex's Answer

Hi, you’re very welcome to Ask Alex.

 

Thanks for reaching out to us. You’re asking why people won’t let you win at games even when you ask them politely to let you win. Everyone likes to win, and it is a great feeling when you do. It’s completely normal and fair to feel like you aren’t having fun if you never get to win a game.

 

Everyone is an individual, so different people might have different reasons why they won’t let you win a game even when you are nice to them when you ask. Often, people get so wrapped up in wanting to win that they will ignore other people’s feelings. It might also be that the people you are playing with are very competitive, and winning is their favourite part of playing a game, rather than enjoying playing with other people. It could also be that the game you are playing is very competitive, and maybe a team game or a game where everyone works together would be more fun for you.

 

If you are playing with your friends, it can always be worth your while to be honest about how you feel. If you feel like the game isn’t fun for you if you never get to win, then maybe you could tell them, and they would understand how you feel and be fairer. You could also suggest a different game where your friends might be more open to letting others win.

 

If talking about how you feel to your friends sounds scary, you can always talk to us here at Childline and practice what you might say! We’re always available to listen and talk about this or whatever else is going on for you. You can call us for free on 1800 66 66 66 or if you prefer, you can chat online through text at www.childline.ie (just click on the orange Live Chat tab on the right hand side of the page). We are open 24/7, so you can always talk out any ideas you might have.

 

Thanks for reaching out, and we would love to hear how things go for you.

Alex