Alex's Answer

Hello there, thanks for your question.

 

It sounds like you’re feeling really unsure and hurt right now. It’s tough when you start to question the trust in a friendship, especially when someone you care about talks negatively about others. It’s completely natural to worry that they might be talking about you behind your back too. Feeling this way can be really unsettling and it’s important to acknowledge those feelings.

 

Firstly, it might help to have an open and honest conversation with your friend about how their words are affecting you. They might not even realise the impact of their actions, and having a heart-to-heart could help clear the air. Let them know how their behaviour makes you feel and give them a chance to explain themselves. This article on the Childline website may be useful for you www.childline.ie/how-to-set-boundaries-in-different-areas-of-your-life/.

 

However, if you’re uncomfortable confronting your friend directly or if you’ve already tried and it hasn’t helped, it might be time to re-evaluate the friendship. Trust is a fundamental part of any relationship, and if you constantly feel worried or suspicious around your friend, it could be harmful to your well-being. Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and support you is important for your mental and emotional health. This article may help you www.childline.ie/how-to-know-when-to-break-up-with-a-friend/.

 

Remember, it’s okay to prioritise your own well-being and to distance yourself from toxic relationships. You deserve to be surrounded by friends who respect and appreciate you for who you are. If you ever need someone to talk to or need further support, please know that there are resources available to you. You can always contact us at Childline by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or Live Chat at www.childline.ie. We’re here for you, anytime, for any reason, and we’ll always listen without judgment. You’re not alone in this.

 

Take care of yourself, and know that you are not alone,

Alex