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What do I do, I am confused?

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Hi alex im a boy of 15 and me and my english teacher have been having sex for a year she says she loves me but for me not to tell anyone cause people wont understand i love her and want people to know she is my girlfriend she says we have to wait what do i do im confused 



Thank you for contacting us here at Ask Alex, you are very welcome.  

I am sorry to hear that you’re feeling confused in this situation. It is essential for you to know that relationships between teachers and their students, particularly when there is a significant age difference and when your teacher is in a position of authority that these relationships are considered unethical and are illegal.   

It is very positive that you have reached out today. Do you have a trusted adult, such as a parent, uncle, aunt, older cousin, another authority figure such as sports coach, to discuss what you are experiencing? They can provide guidance, support, and help to ensure your safety.  It would be very beneficial for you to consider speaking to a therapist or a counselor so that they can help you to gain clarity, to explore your emotions and thoughts in relation to your situation in a safe space. You may be able to access such support through contacting your local GP. Through their support they can help you to decide the next steps and support you to navigate these complex emotions.   

Seeking help and guidance for your situation is crucial. By involving trusted adults and professionals, you can walk towards finding a resolution that prioritizes your well-being and ensure a safe environment.  If you would rather speak to someone outside of your family/ friends/ school, we are always here for you at Childline. You can contact us by clicking the Orange Live Chat Button on or by calling us on 1800 66 66 66, any time of the day or night. You can talk about as much or as little as you want to. It is important that you let somebody know about your difficulty in your current relationship.  

Take care of yourself,   


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