Alex's Answer

Welcome to Ask Alex, thank you so much for your question and for reaching out. 

You mentioned your parents are always shouting, calling you names, and telling you to study. Your dad gets angry at very small things and has brutally beaten you up. You don’t feel safe. 

We are so sorry this is happening to you. We understand how difficult this must be and want you to know, we are here for you. You have done nothing wrong. This is not your fault in any way. We also understand it may have it difficult reaching out, so well done, we are thankful that you contacted us. 

It is wrong for an adult to hit a child. It is also illegal. Is there another adult in your life that you feel you can trust? If there is, we really encourage you speak to them and tell them how you feel. We know you may feel that telling someone may make it worse, but getting help can keep you safe. 

You have the right to feel safe at home or anywhere else and there are lots of people that can help you when you are in danger. If you ever feel unsafe at home, you can call the Gardaí on 999 or 112. It is their job to make sure you are coming to no harm. You may find these articles on the Childline website helpful www.childline.ie/how-to-live-with-a-parent-who-has-anger-issues/  and www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/. 

Physical abuse can make you feel powerless but please know at Childline we are always here to listen. You can phone us for free at any time, day, or night, on 1800 66 66 66. You can also chat live with us on our website www.childline.ie, just click on the Live Chat button, and type your name (you can make one up if you don’t want to use your real name) to start the chat. The service is confidential as we do not have caller id nor your IP address. It is a safe place for you to talk about what is going on for you at home. 

Remember, you are not alone. There will always be someone here at the other end of the phone in Childline. We care about you and are here if you need us. 

Take care of yourself, 

Alex