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Unworthy of love

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Why am i useless and unworthy of love. I just dont understand anymore


Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,

It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now, and we want you to know that you’re not alone. Feeling useless and unworthy of love is incredibly difficult, but it’s important to remember that these feelings don’t define your worth as a person. Everyone struggles with self-doubt and insecurity at times, especially during the teenage years when so much is changing and it can feel like you’re under a lot of pressure.

It’s completely normal to have moments of doubt, but it’s important to challenge those negative thoughts and remind yourself of your natural value. You are not defined by your mistakes. You have unique talents, strengths, and qualities that make you deserving of love and respect.

It might be helpful to talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling, whether it’s a friend, family member, teacher, or counsellor. Opening up about your emotions can be incredibly relieving and can help you gain perspective on your thoughts and feelings.

Remember, you deserve to feel loved and valued just as much as anyone else. You are worthy of love simply because you exist. It’s ok to look for support when you need it, and there are always people willing to listen and help you through difficult times. Organisations like and can offer support for people who are experiencing low mood, just as you are.

If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to reach out. You can always contact us at Childline by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or Live Chat at We’re here for you 24/7, ready to listen without judgment and offer support for any reason, any time. You’re not alone, and things can get better.

Look after yourself, and please reach out and talk to somebody real soon,


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