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Trapped in a lifestyle

Your Question

Hi, I’m fourteen and I’ve lived in my city since forever. I’ve created lots of memories in this small town and I’ve also suffered a lot. My family and me know a lot of people around here and every time I walk in the streets I can’t avoid passing through a place without remembering something negative. I have family issues and I fight a lot with my classmates. I have a lot of self-esteem problems and more stuff. I feel like I’m exagerading, as if I just wanted attention, but I actually hate it, I hate crying in front of people, I stopped talking the way I used to. I’m not happy. I feel trapped in a lifestyle that makes me suffer, I can’t change it bc I’m a minor. It feels old, I’ve told myself and written that down so many times, nothing ever works, nothing never changes. I don’t know how much I can take. Please help me, what should I do?

Answer

Hey there, thanks for getting in touch!
 
It takes courage to reach out, and we’re here for you. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed by everything you’re experiencing. You’re not exaggerating; your feelings are valid, and it’s ok to ask for help.
 
Living in a small town where memories, both good and bad, surround you can be challenging. It’s important to remember that you’re not defined by your past or your environment. While it might feel like you’re trapped, there are ways to cope and find support.
 
As an Irish-based service, we at Childline Ireland want to ensure that you receive the best support available to you. While we’re here to offer support and a listening ear to you, it’s important to note that we can’t provide local services tailored to your specific area.
 
However, talking to someone you trust, like a parent or another adult, can be a good starting point. They may be able to provide guidance and support or connect you with resources that can help you get through this difficult time.
 
Know that you can contact our 24-hour webchat service anytime, for a confidential, non-judgmental chat about what is going on for you at Childline.ie
 
Remember, you’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help. Take one step at a time, and know that things can get better.
 
Look after yourself,
Alex

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