Alex's Answer

Hi there, 

Thanks for coming out to Ask Alex and letting us know what’s going on for you right now. We know it’s not always easy to do that. You mentioned feeling like your mom and stepdad don’t like you sometimes, and that sounds really hard. 

It’s important to feel loved and cared for by our family, and it can be really difficult if we sometimes doubt people’s feelings for us. Would we be right in thinking that sometimes you feel like they do like you? What changes for you in those moments when you feel like they don’t like you?

Sometimes we can have negative thoughts that come into our mind, particularly if we’re feeling upset or anxious. Arguments and disagreements happen in families, and sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment that they don’t really mean, and they can create some hurtful feelings along the way. Sometimes people aren’t even aware of things they are doing that may be impacting the feelings of others. It’s vital to know the difference between occasional fights/tension and situations where you are unsafe or in danger.

Have you ever tried talking to your mom or stepdad about what you’ve been feeling, or would you be comfortable talking with them? Maybe you could choose a time when you are all relaxed and not busy with anything else, and have a chat with them (or one of them if it was easier for you). It’s important that they know how you are feeling, and they may not realise that something they are doing is making you feel this way. Your feelings are completely valid, and you deserve to have the space to talk about how you are feeling and try and resolve it. There are some articles on the Childline website about family relationships, here’s one which you may find helpful www.childline.ie/8-things-to-do-when-you-feel-overwhelmed-at-home/.

What are things like for you at home outside of your relationship with your mom and stepdad? We’re not sure if there’s anyone else that lives at home with you, but want you to know you always have the right to feel safe and comfortable at home. If there’s ever a time you don’t feel safe, it’s important that you let someone know. 

We’re always here for you in Childline too, if you’d like to chat some more about how you’re feeling and maybe we can talk through what you think your options could be. You can contact us through Live Chat on our website childline.ie, or on the phone (1800 66 66 66), anytime of the day or night. 

Thanks again for getting in touch, know you are never alone. 

Take care of yourself, 

Alex