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Relapsed after rehab

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My boyfriend’s friend is an alcoholic and he came out of rehab 3 weeks ago and he told my boyfriend tonight that he took a drink and relapsed. My boyfriend is so upset and feels it’s his fault and I’m so worried about him


Hey there,
Firstly, we want to say that we’re really glad you reached out about this. It takes a lot of courage to talk about difficult situations, especially when it involves someone you care about. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time right now, and it’s completely understandable to feel worried and upset.
It’s important to remember that your boyfriend’s friend’s relapse is not your boyfriend’s fault. Addiction is a complex issue, and it’s not something that anyone else can control. Your boyfriend may feel guilty or responsible, but it’s crucial to reassure him that he’s not to blame. Supporting someone with addiction can be incredibly challenging, but it’s essential to be there for them without taking on the burden of their actions.
Your concern for your boyfriend’s well-being is also valid. It’s tough to see someone you care about struggling, especially when they’re feeling guilty or upset. Encourage your boyfriend to talk about his feelings and offer him a listening ear. Remind him that it’s ok to look for support for himself, whether that’s through talking to a trusted adult, a counsellor, or a support group. You may find this article from the Childline website helpful
If your boyfriend’s friend is ever in an unsafe situation, it’s important to reach out for help. You or they can contact emergency services at 999 or 112 for immediate assistance. 
Childline is also here for you, providing support and guidance whenever you need it. You can reach out to us 24 hours a day, every day, either by calling 1800 66 66 66 or messaging us on our website at by clicking the purple circle with the chat box. Our team is here to listen, support you, and explore your options with you, no matter what you’re going through. If your boyfriend and his friend are also under 18 years, they are most welcome to contact us too.
Take care of yourself, and remember that it’s ok to ask for help when you need it. You’re not alone in this,

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