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Parents fighting

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Why do my parents fight


Hello there, welcome to Ask Alex.

We appreciate your courage in reaching out with such a sensitive question. It’s not easy dealing with the complexities of family dynamics, especially when it involves witnessing your parents argue. Please know that you’re not alone in this, and many teenagers struggle with similar concerns.

It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions when your parents fight – confusion, sadness, anger, or even fear. It’s important to understand that disagreements between parents are a part of human relationships, but that doesn’t make it any less unsettling, especially when you’re directly impacted by it.

One reason parents might argue is simply because they have different views or opinions on certain matters. Just like any other individuals, they bring their own backgrounds, experiences, and beliefs into the relationship, which can sometimes clash. It’s important to remember that disagreements, when handled respectfully, can actually be a healthy part of communication and problem-solving within a relationship.

However, if the fighting becomes frequent, intense, or involves hurtful behaviour, it can take a toll on everyone in the family, including you. It’s important to remember that their arguments are not your fault, and you deserve to feel safe and supported at home.

Have you considered talking to a trusted adult? It can be really helpful. Whether it’s a relative, teacher, counsellor, or family friend, opening up to someone you trust can provide you with additional support and perspective. They can offer guidance, help you process your feelings, and even intervene if necessary to ensure your safety. Remember, your well-being is paramount, so if you ever feel unsafe or threatened during your parents’ arguments, it’s important to prioritise your own safety. You may find this article helpful

If you ever feel overwhelmed or unsure about how to cope with your parents’ fights, remember that support is available. You are never alone in this journey, and the Childline team are here to offer a listening ear, to help you get through difficult times. You can reach out to us anytime, day or night, through our phone service at 1800 66 66 66 or via Live Chat at We’re here to support you and explore your options with you, no matter what you’re going through.

Take care of yourself, and remember there are people who care about you and want to help you through this.


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