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Why do I oversexualize myself?


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex

It sounds like you’re going through a challenging time, and we want to assure you that you’re not alone.

Firstly, it’s important to recognise that many teenagers experience feelings of oversexualization at some point in their lives. As you go through your teenage years, you’re constantly bombarded with messages from media, peers, and society about what it means to be attractive or desirable. It’s easy to feel pressured to conform to these unrealistic standards, leading to feelings of insecurity and confusion about your own identity.

It’s also worth considering if there are underlying reasons behind why you might be oversexualising yourself. Sometimes, it could stem from a desire for attention or validation, or it might be a way of coping with deeper emotional issues such as low self-esteem, past trauma, or a need for acceptance. It’s okay to explore these feelings and look for support from trusted adults or professionals who can help you understand and address the root causes.

Remember, your worth is not determined by your appearance or how others perceive you. You are valuable just as you are, and it’s important to prioritise your mental and emotional well-being above societal expectations. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who accept you for who you are, and don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you need it. This article from the Childline website may be helpful for you

Lastly, we want to remind you that there are resources available to support you, such as Childline. Whether you need someone to talk to, guidance on exploring your options, or assistance in finding professional help, Childline is here for you 24/7, offering confidential and non-judgmental support. You can contact us anytime by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at You’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through this journey. 

Please take care of yourself, and know that you can get in touch with Childline anytime, for any reason,


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