Alex's Answer

Thank you for contacting Ask Alex.  

It sounds like you are feeling quite confused by your parents running hot and cold on you as sometimes they are super nice but also, they say mean things to you on a nearly daily basis. Name calling is not a nice thing to do and can leave anyone feeling very hurt and it’s no surprise that you are feeling confused by their inconsistent behaviour. Nobody has the right to call you names and we would be concerned that this was happening to you. Have you tried speaking with them about how this all makes you feel?  
 
If you aren’t ready or aren’t able to speak with your parents about this, you have the right to talk to someone about how you are feeling. There may be an adult in your life that you trust that you could speak to such as a grandparent, aunt/uncle, teacher, coach or someone else close to you. Talking about our experiences can provide relief and furthermore, this adult may be able to point you in the direction of additional support, if that is what you need. They may even be willing to speak with your parents on your behalf or be there with you if/when you speak with them. 

Childline is there to listen to you too, to support and help you explore the options that are available to you. Our phone lines are open 24 hours a day at 1800 66 66 66 and we would be more than happy to have a chat with you to discuss this further. Our service is confidential and non-judgmental. We have a text service (50101) and a web-chat service available on this website https://www.childline.ie/login/ if you don’t feel like talking, but you still want to get in touch with us. 

Thanks for getting in touch,  

Alex