Alex's Answer

Hi there,

Thank you for getting in touch with Ask Alex. You have been so brave in telling us what is going on for you. You have asked what to do if your parents hurt each other. We would be concerned to hear that this abuse is happening in your home, no one ever has the right to hurt anyone else, be that emotionally or physically. It is so important that you know this is not your fault.  

It can be hard to know why people abuse others, there are many different reasons which are all difficult to understand and apply in various situations. It is never the fault of the person being abused that this happens though; the person who abuses likely needs help in many areas such as how to manage situations and their feelings. You may find it helpful to read our article:  www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/   

It might be good to talk to someone you trust about this and what is going on for you. You have a right to get help and support and to be listened to and heard. Sometimes talking about what we are going through with an adult we trust can help us to make decisions. Do you think you have a trusted adult you could speak to about your situation? This may be another family member or a teacher for example. 

People have the right to report any concerns of abuse to Social Workers or to the Gardaí. Túsla is the Child and Family Agency in Ireland. The social workers within Túsla are there for young people under the age of 18 years, and their job is to keep children and young people safe at home. You can find your local Túlsa office here  www.tusla.ie/get-in-touch/local-area-offices/ if you would like to get in touch with them or get information. If you feel unsafe at any time, or you are in danger, you can call the emergency services at 999  or  112.  

Remember, you deserve to be listened to and to have your feelings heard. Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone. If you feel that you are not ready yet to talk to someone you know, you are very welcome to chat with the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on www.childline.ie. Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.    

Thank you for reaching out to us. Take care of yourself, and know we are here for you if you would like to chat some more, 

Alex