Pat's Answer

Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Pat.   

Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us what is going on within your life. You have taken a big step forward in talking about your thoughts and feelings and you are very brave.  

You are saying that your mum is yelling at you a lot for no reason. You are trying to help your mum and look after her by making her breakfast in bed, but she still yells at you. You say that your mum will not listen to you or hear anything you have to say, as she just yells at you and tells you to cop on.  

We are sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. It is understandable that you feel as if you do not know what to do. It sounds like you feel that everything you tried to do to help your mum does not stop your mum from yelling at you.  

You have the right to seek help and support, and to talk about your thoughts and feelings. You have the right to be heard and listened to. You also have the right to not be hurt in any way by being yelled at. Do you have a trusted adult in your life that you can talk to about how you are feeling? This adult could be a grandparent, aunt, uncle or a teacher. We know it can be hard to open up and talk to someone who is close to us, so maybe talking to somebody outside of your family who you are comfortable talking to, might help you at first.  

​We would be concerned about you as you said you feel that you are being yelled at for everything you do. It is important for your own mental wellbeing that you get the help and support that you deserve. Here are some organisations that might be of help to you as such as:  www.jigsaw.ie; www.yourmentalhealth.ie; www.spunout.ie These are just some of the websites you may like to look at or that may help you understand what is going on for you or can offer direction in how to avail of other supports. The ISPCC Childline website has some information too which you may like to look at www.childline.ie/how-i-feel/ and www.childline.ie/home-and-families/

Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk, or chat and we really would love to listen to you. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or text on 50101 or through web chat on www.childline.ie  These services are open 24-hours a day, every day and are free and confidential. It is your space to talk about your home life, or you may prefer to talk about something else. The choice is yours.

We hope that you find some of the above supports helpful. Remember we in Childline are always here to listen and hear you. Thank you for reaching out and describing what is going on for you.  

Take care of yourself. We hope to hear from you soon,

Pat