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My mother was beating me with a wooden stick and she said she doesn't care if I die

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My mtoher was beatign e up with a hige wooden stick just niw and i was screaming that iw as dying and she said that i shoiuld die and that she doesnt care i think is going to kiil me and i dont know wahtr tot do i am 12


Hi there, you’re welcome to Ask Alex.

Thanks for getting in touch with us and deciding to chat to us about what’s going on for you at the moment. We know it can be difficult to open up, but we think it is great for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.

From what you’re saying, it sounds like you have some questions about what to do when your mother hurts you physically and verbally.

We want you to know that you are not alone in this and there are supports out there to keep young people safe from harm. No one has the right to hurt another person physically or in any other way, and adults in particular do not have the right to hurt any child or young person. There are laws in place in Ireland that protect young people from harm so that means there are organisations whose job it is to keep young people safe. 

You can call Tusla on 0818 776 315 from Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. You can also visit their Changing Futures website to find more information about their services:  

It’s really important that you are safe. If you are in immediate danger, you should call emergency services any time by dialling 999 or 112. Those are a freephone numbers that can be contacted no matter where you are if you are in danger. 

Talking to someone you trust about your experiences and how they make you feel might be something to consider too. If you have been hurt by your mother then you would have the right to get help and support so maybe talking to someone you can confide in, a trusted adult such as a coach, teacher or school counsellor might be an option for you. Childline are also here for you any day of the year, at any time. You can contact the Childline team by phone 1800 66 66 66, or you can text 50101 or by chatting online at We will always listen, never judge you and would love to chat with you. 

Please remember that you’re never alone, there are organisations out there that are always happy to help when you need it, and even if you just want to have a chat you can give Childline a call. We hope that you get support if it’s something you need and if not, we hope this reply gave you a bit more information on something you were curious about. 

Thanks for getting in touch and take care, 


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