Pat's Answer

To Pat / 28 July 2020

My friends are turning against me

Your Question

Hi pat my friends are turning against me and bullying me and leving me out alot there the only friend s i have so i can’t leave them but thay really hurt my felling s and thay do it everyday what do i do

From Pat / 19 August 2020


Hi, thank you so much for being brave and sharing your problem with us.

You feel that your friends are turning against you and leaving you out of things. This experience with these friends is really hurting your feelings and it is happening to you every day. Even though they treat you this way, these friends are still an important part of your life.

We are sorry to hear that you are feeling hurt by your friends’ actions. It sounds like you are going through a hard time and that you feel you are own. In the group or even outside the group, is there one friend that you could share how you are really feeling with? Also, could it be possible that your friends don’t realize what they are doing and how they are making you feel? It is important that you know that nobody has the right to bully you, with words or with hands or feet.

You have the right to talk to someone and you have the right to be listened to and the right to be respected. From what you say it sounds like your group of friends are not showing you respect just now. Do you have a trusted adult that you could share your worries with? Someone who you feel comfortable talking to. Often having a chat can help you to come up with a plan of action to allow you to move forward. On the Childline website that are some articles on friendships, which may give you some ideas on how to deal with the friends you have and how they are making you feel. You can find them here

You would be very welcome to chat to us at Childline. We are a free listening service for young people 18 years of age and younger. The service is available to you 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Childline does not judge you and will listen to what you have to say. There are a few ways to contact Childline, by telephone at 1800 66 66 66, by text at 50101 or by web chat which is available through the Childline website  

We really would like to chat to you more about what is going on for you. You have the contact details and can chat to us at any time, whichever way you prefer.

Thank you for being so brave and getting in touch with us.

Mind yourself and stay safe,


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