Pat's Answer

To Pat / 25 May 2020

My friend is suicidal

Your Question

Two of my friends are suicidal and self harming and one has an eating disorder, I can’t tell anyone yet but I’m so scared and I don’t know what to do

From Pat / 2 June 2020


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Pat.

You are telling us that you are very scared for two of your friends. They are suicidal and self-harming and one has an eating disorder. You feel you cannot tell anyone and you don’t know what to do.

It sounds like you are a really good friend and that you are very concerned for your two friends. It is understandable that you feel scared and you don’t know what to do. It is indeed a big worry for you and a difficult situation for you to be in. Childline believes that you are very brave to be looking for support for your friends.

Every child has the right to be safe and we would be very concerned for your two friends. They too have the right to get help and support around what is going on for them. 

Pieta house offers support and help for people who self-harm at,. They also have a phone service 24/7 at 1800 247 247.

BodyWhys offers support and help for people with eating disorders at Their phone number is 1890 200 444.

Alternatively, Childline are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to talk to you and your friends by phone at 1800 66 66 66, by text 50101, or by web chat at 

Childline would be more than happy if you would like to contact us and we can chat further about this and listen to and support you and help you to explore some options that are available to you.

Thank you for being so brave and concerned for your friends and for contacting us here at Ask Pat.

We wish you well,


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