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My friend could end up homeless

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Hi, my friend is 16 and her parents are threatening to kick her out of the house. They want her to choose between having her boyfriend or her studies, and when she tried to have a conversation with them they started screaming at her and now she’s scared they’re really going to kick her out.

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Hello, thanks for reaching out to us,
 
First off, we want to say that we hear you, and we’re really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds incredibly tough to be caught between family and personal life, especially when it feels like neither option is really fair. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling scared and overwhelmed for your friend right now. Just know that you’re not alone in this.
 
Your friend is lucky to have someone like you who cares about her wellbeing. It’s tough for you to hear that her parents are putting her in such a difficult position, especially with such extreme consequences. It’s concerning that her parents are reacting with anger instead of trying to understand.
 
If she’s feeling unsafe at home or if things escalate further, it’s important for her to know that there are people she can reach out to for help. The Gardaí are there to ensure her safety, and she can contact them at 999 or 112 if she ever feels threatened or in danger. Additionally, organisations like Childline are available 24/7 to provide support and explore her options with her. She can call us at 1800 66 66 66 or reach out via Live Chat at www.Childline.ie whenever she needs someone to talk to.
 
We know it can feel really overwhelming to think about what to do next, but please remind your friend that she deserves to feel safe and supported in her own home. Encourage her to reach out for help and to know that there are people who care about her and want to see her happy and healthy. She’s not alone in this, and there are resources available to help her through this challenging time. Perhaps she has another adult she trusts that she can confide in, which could guide and support her while talking to her parents. This article may be helpful www.childline.ie/reconnecting-with-your-parents-or-siblings-after-a-fight/.
 
Remember, you need to look after your own well-being too. You have the right to support while you are supporting your friend. Childline is here for you too, any time, for any reason. The services are free, confidential and non-judgmental for all young people, 18 years and younger.
 
Take care of yourself, and know that you are not alone,
Alex

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