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My family hate me

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What should I do If my family hates me and I want to move out at 14?


Hey there!
It takes courage to reach out, especially when things at home feel tough, so well done! It’s really important to know that you’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help.
Feeling like your family hates you can be incredibly painful and isolating. We want you to know that it’s not your fault, and you deserve to feel safe and loved. If you ever feel in immediate danger or unsafe at home, please don’t hesitate to reach out to emergency services at 999 or 112. Your safety is the number one priority.
At 14, legally, you’re not able to move out without your parents’ consent. The legal age for leaving home in Ireland is 16 with parental consent. However, there are organisations like Túsla (the child and family agency in Ireland) that can offer support and guidance in difficult family situations. They can provide resources and help you explore your options. Here is a website designed by young people who have used Túsla services, and may offer you some guidance
It’s also essential to talk to a trusted adult about what you’re going through. This could be a teacher, a school counsellor, a relative, or a family friend. Sometimes, having someone to confide in can make a big difference and help you find solutions to your problems.
Remember, you’re never alone. Childline is here for you 24/7 to support you and explore your options with you. You can reach out to us for free at 1800 66 66 66 or message on by clicking on the purple Messenger circle to begin a webchat. We have trained team of humans who are here to listen without judgment and offer support in exploring your options with you.
Please know that things can get better, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through this difficult time. You deserve to feel safe, loved, and supported. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.
Look after yourself,

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