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My brother makes me mad

Your Question

İs it ok if I hit/get mad at my 8 year old brother when he touches my private part? (İ told him to stop and explained why, also he understands that he should stop he just ignores) 


Hi there, 

You’re very welcome to Ask Alex today and thank you for getting in touch with your question. You’re wondering if it’s okay to hit and get mad at your brother when he touches your private part. 

We’re not going to say that it’s okay for anyone to hit someone else. However, it’s completely understandable that you’re mad and that you would have such a strong reaction to what your brother is doing, as it’s not okay for him to touch you. It sounds like you have been clear with him about why he needs to stop what he’s doing to you, but that he has ignored this despite understanding what has been said. We’d be really worried to hear that his behaviour has continued regardless of this. 

It seems like you have tried talking with your brother to get his behaviour to stop but that hasn’t worked. We think it’s important that you talk to a trusted adult in your life about this, someone who may be able to have a conversation with your brother, echoes what you’ve said and ensures that he stops touching you and helps him to understands why it is not appropriate behaviour.

Would there be someone you would feel comfortable talking to about this? We know it might be a difficult thing to speak to someone close, but you have done exceptionally well contacting us here today. Maybe there’s a parent, carer, or other adult family member you could chat with? Or if there’s someone you’ve been able to talk to in the past about something? You have been open and honest with what’s going on here today, and you deserve to get help and support to stop your brother’s behaviour. 

It’s really important that what your brother is doing stops, so please know you can contact us here anytime you would like, either on our Live Chat service or over the phone (1800 66 66 66). If you’d like to talk some more about how you’re feeling or who you think you might be able to talk to in your life about this, please get in touch. Childline is a safe space, and you don’t have to share anything you’re not comfortable with. 

Take care of yourself, we hope you get supported real soon, 


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