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My best friend is beautiful

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I have a friend, she’s more of my best friend. She’s the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen she has beautiful big blue eyes and freckles and pale skin and curly light brown hair and she has a thin figure and she’s not too tall and not too short she’s so beautiful. Me? I’m ugly… I have stupid ugly brown eyes and ugly not straight, not wavey brown hair that’s ugly I have a ugly nose and not pale skin I’m so ugly compared to her I wanna look like her so bad. I feel ashamed of being her friend because of how beautiful she is compared to me. 

Answer

Hi there, thank you for reaching out for help and support. It sounds like you admire your friend a lot.
 
You sound very hard on yourself. Has someone told you that you are ugly, or is this something you are feeling yourself? We all have different and unique looks, and that is what makes us all special. It’s normal to compare ourselves to others sometimes. You would be amazed that many people would love to have your brown eyes instead of blue, and vice versa. It sounds like you have lovely wavy hair; many people buy lots of hair tools to put a wave in their hair as they are unhappy with how straight their hair is. If you feel unhappy about your hair, have you thought about styling it differently maybe?
 
You deserve to feel happy and confident in yourself. Have you ever thought about talking to a trusted adult about how you are feeling? You might be able to talk about how you are feeling and get advice about restyling some of your clothes that might make you feel more confident. There is a really good article on how to learn and love the way you look; you can find it here: www.childline.ie/draft-how-to-learn-to-love-the-way-you-look/.
 
If you would like to talk more about this, we would love to hear from you. You can contact us by phone on 1800 66 66 66, or through Live Chat on www.childline.ie, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our services are free, non-judgmental, and confidential. Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk or chat, and we really would love to listen to you. Childline offers you the space to talk about whatever you choose. You do not need to have a problem to get in touch with us. Talking about how you are feeling is important.
 

We hope to hear from you soon,

Alex

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