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Love and care for him

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Sex with my boyfriend hurts I’m 17 we have been together 2 years and I do love him and care for him but he does not know how to thrill me are excite me don’t want to be hurting his feelings what shud I do ?????


Hey there, welcome to Ask Alex!
Thank you for reaching out with such an important question. It takes courage to talk about these things, and we want you to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. 
Firstly, it’s essential to prioritise your own comfort and well-being in any relationship, including your sexual experiences. Feeling discomfort during sex is not uncommon, especially when you’re still learning and exploring. Your feelings are valid, and it’s ok to speak up about them.
Communication is key in situations like this. Expressing your needs and desires to your boyfriend can help strengthen your relationship and improve intimacy. Remember, it’s not about hurting his feelings, but rather about finding ways to enhance your mutual pleasure and satisfaction.
Approach the conversation with kindness and honesty, focusing on how you both can explore and experiment together. It’s important for both partners to feel safe, respected, and satisfied in their relationship.
If you’re unsure how to start the conversation, consider seeking guidance from a trusted adult or a professional counsellor. And remember, you can always reach out to us at Childline for confidential and non-judgmental support, any time, for any reason. Your well-being matters, and we’re here to help. is a great website that has lots of facts about relationships. And this article may be helpful for why you are finding intercourse painful As we are not medical experts here in Childline, we would recommend that you seek professional medical support if your pain persists.
We hope that you have found the above helpful. Remember, we are here for you should you like to talk some more. Look after yourself,

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