Alex's Answer

Hey there, welcome to Ask Alex!

 

First off, it’s brave of you to reach out with this question. Feeling like you’re losing your friends can be really tough, and it’s completely normal to want to be liked by the people around you. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s ok to ask for advice on how to cope with these feelings.

 

It’s important to remember that being likeable isn’t about changing who you are fundamentally. Authenticity is key. Focus on being true to yourself and embracing your unique qualities. Your friends were drawn to you for a reason, so don’t feel like you have to completely change yourself to regain their approval.

 

Communication is also important. If you’re feeling disconnected from your friends or sense tension in your relationships, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with them. Share your feelings in a non-confrontational way and listen to their perspectives as well. Sometimes misunderstandings can be cleared up simply by talking things out.

 

Additionally, showing empathy and kindness goes a long way in fostering likeability. Be there for your friends when they need support, and they’ll likely reciprocate. Small gestures of kindness, like offering a listening ear or a helping hand, can strengthen your relationships and make you more likeable in their eyes. Here is an article from the Childline website you may find helpful www.childline.ie/3-ways-to-stop-worrying-about-what-people-think-of-you/. And another www.childline.ie/5-signs-youre-a-people-pleaser/. There are many more which you may like to take a look at as well.

 

Remember, friendships evolve and change over time, and it’s natural to experience ups and downs. Focus on nurturing the connections that are important to you and surround yourself with people who appreciate you for who you are. And if you ever need someone to talk to, remember that Childline is here for you, anytime, for any reason. You can reach out to us by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Messenger at www.childline.ie, by clicking on the purple chat circle. We’re confidential, non-judgmental, and available 24/7. You’re not alone, and we’re here to support you.

 

We wish you the best with your friendships going forward. Remember, we are here for you whenever you need to chat to somebody.

 

Look after yourself,

Alex