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It's kind of frustrating

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Hey alex. So basically its kinda frustrating. I just feel like I won’t grow. I started puberty late last year. So I’m well into it, but my voice isn’t changing, and I still have EXTREMELY fat chubby cheeks. I don’t want those cheeks with the golfball-sized cheekbones, but still. And I’m fat in my thighs and my bum. I really don’t wanna be. I try but I JUST CANT keep a workout schedule. At least the fat isn’t in my waist, but still. I have a double chin aswell. You can only see it if I pull my head back a lot or look down when laying down but still. I am pretty happy about my body, im grateful, but I have acne aswell and no-one else I know does (other than my 28 yr old sister. Which makes me fear I’ll have it my entire life like her. And I don’t want that.)But yeah. I hate admitting it but I think I’m insecure. I don’t want to be like others. Others are insecure. I wanna be the secure one. The therapist one. The one kid my age who is mature enough to not be insecure. I used to be. Now I’m insecure.

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Hey there, thanks for reaching out to us!
 
First off, we want to say that it’s completely normal to feel frustrated or insecure sometimes, especially as your body is going through changes. Puberty can be a rollercoaster of emotions and physical transformations, and it’s ok to feel overwhelmed by it all.
 
We hear you about wanting to grow and develop at your own pace. Everyone’s journey through puberty is unique, and there’s no set timeline for when certain changes will happen. Your voice will eventually deepen, and your facial features will continue to evolve as you mature. Remember, it’s ok to embrace your natural appearance, and any features you may feel self-conscious about.
 
As for your concerns about your weight and exercise routine, it’s important to be kind to yourself. Developing healthy habits takes time, and it’s ok to struggle with consistency. Focus on activities you enjoy and find ways to incorporate movement into your daily routine that feels manageable for you. Here is an article about learning to love your body www.childline.ie/draft-how-to-learn-to-love-the-way-you-look/.
 
Acne is another common part of puberty, and while it can be frustrating, it doesn’t define your worth or beauty. Many people deal with acne at some point in their lives, and there are plenty of resources and treatments available to help manage it. This article may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/what-exactly-happens-to-your-body-and-mind-during-puberty/.
 
It’s ok to feel insecure from time to time, but it’s also important to recognise that you are not alone in your feelings. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counsellor for support.
 
Remember, you are never alone. The Childline team are here for you, to support you and explore your options with you. We are open 24 hours a day, every day! Contact us free at phone 1800 66 66 66, or by Messenger at www.Childline.ie (just click on the purple Messenger circle!).
 
Be kind to yourself, and look after yourself,
Alex
 

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