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Is slapping ok

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is it ok for a dad to slap a 12 year old son butt 


Hi there, thank you so much for reaching out to us here today, you are very welcome. 

You have asked a question in relation to behaviour from a parent in the form of slapping a child’s buttocks.  This behaviour is considered inappropriate.  In Ireland, all children have the right to protection and safety, and they should get help if they are being mistreated in any way.  

Do you have a trusted adult who you could talk to? This adult could be an aunt, uncle or grandparent.  It can be hard to open up to someone who is close to us so maybe talking to someone outside of your family who you feel comfortable talking to might work better for you at first; perhaps a teacher or school counsellor. It is important for the child experiencing this behaviour, to get the help and support that they deserve.  

Túsla is the Child and Family agency in Ireland.  Here, there are social workers whose job it is to make sure that all people under the age of 18 are safe.  You can find you local Túsla office here You may need the help of an adult to talk to somebody at Túsla but it is important that you know that the adults is your life have a responsibility to keep you safe and get you the help if you or someone you know is not living in a safe environment.  

If you would like to have a chat about how you are feeling or know of someone else who may need a chat, you can always contact us here at Childline, by clicking on the purple circle on this website or giving us a free call on 1800 66 66 66. You can talk about anything you want to, and we are here to listen to whatever you would like to say, in a safe, non-judgemental way. There are always trained people waiting for you to get in touch any time and for any reason.  

Take care of you and remember to reach out for further support whenever you feel ready,  


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