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Is it right to keep secrets

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Hi is it right to keep secrets? My sister who’s 25 and my stepdad they are sleeping together they have said for me not to tell my mum. I’m confused 


Hi there,  

You are very welcome to Ask Alex. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help so thank you for being here.  

You have asked us if it is right to keep secrets as your sister and stepdad have asked you to do so. It’s a very tricky situation for you and we are sorry you have been asked to do this. 

Keeping secrets can often have a big impact on our mental wellbeing, and often can hurt people including ourselves. It’s important to realise that you are a child, and the adults around you should not place this burden on you. Adults often keep secrets to avoid consequences of their actions. We think it’s important to talk to someone close to you about what is going on for you and how it is impacting you, this could be another family member, a sports coach, or a teacher. 

In the meantime, it’s important to look after yourself and your own wellbeing, it’s a stressful time for you. Here is an article that might help:  

If you ever feel like you can’t talk to someone you know just yet or need support in how to start these conversations, you can always call the Childline Team at 1800 66 66 66 or reach out through Live Chat at . Our services are non-judgmental and confidential. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  

Take care of yourself, and know you do not have to go through this on your own,  


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