Alex's Answer

Hi, and welcome to Ask Alex.  

You are asking if it’s ok to masturbate. Masturbation is a topic that many people find difficult to talk about so well done for reaching out with your question about it.  

Masturbation is completely normal. It’s a personal decision as to if and when you decide to masturbate. Masturbation is a way for you to explore your body and what feels good for you sexually; it is an opportunity to learn about your body.  

Ensuring that you are alone in a private, safe place is important. At home, it may be a good idea to have boundaries where family members agree to knock before entering your room/space, so as to avoid any awkward interruptions! Although masturbation isn’t anything to be ashamed of, it is considered to be a rather private matter.

Hygiene has a big part to play in the exploration of your body as you do not wish to cause any infections or discomfort which can sometimes happen. Keeping hands and any objects you use clean will help prevent this, so do keep this in mind also.  

You are always welcome to talk with Childline about this too. The Childline team are here to listen to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week so you can contact us at any time. We are available via web chat: www.childline.ie, by text at 50101 or by free phone on 1800 66 66 66. Our services are free, confidential, non-judgmental and we offer a safe place to talk about anything that is going on for you. We would love to hear from you!   

Look after yourself.  

Alex.