Alex's Answer

Is it ok for parents to hit kids

Your Question

is it ok for my parents to hit me even when I did something wrong? Also is it ok for them to tell me I’m stupid even when I did something wrong?


Hello there! Welcome to Ask Alex, a safe space where you can ask questions and look for guidance.

It’s completely normal to have questions and concerns about your experiences at your age. We want to assure you that your feelings are valid, and we’re here to help.

First and foremost, it is not okay for anyone, including your parents, to hit you, even if you’ve done something wrong. Physical violence is not an acceptable way to discipline or communicate with a child. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel unsafe, remember that you have the right to be protected; you can call the emergency services at 999or 112.

Additionally, it’s also not okay for anyone to call you names or make you feel bad about yourself, even when you’ve made a mistake. Constructive criticism and guidance are important, but it should be done in a respectful and supportive manner. How would you feel reaching out to a trusted adult you know, maybe another family member, a teacher or a school counsellor? They may be able to suppport you at this time.

In Ireland, Túsla, the Child and Family Agency is there to support and help  families in situations like yours. They are there to ensure your safety and well-being. You or your parents can reach out to them for assistance and guidance. You can find out about the services they provide here The ISPCC website also has lots of articles supporting grown-ups which can be found here

Remember, you are not alone in this. If you ever need someone to talk to or have more questions, the Childline Team is here for you 24 hours a day, every day. You can contact us by phone 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at We are dedicated to supporting you and helping you explore your options. You are important, and your well-being matters. Don’t hesitate to reach out when you’re ready.

Take care of yourself, please get in touch soon.

Ask me a question

You can ask me about anything you want, there’s nothing too big or small.