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Is it normal to want to die...

Your Question

Is it normal to want to die, or think about killing yourself nearly every day?


Thank you for reaching out to Ask Pat. 

You are asking if it is normal that you want to die and to have suicidal thoughts almost every day. You are very brave and strong to reach out and tell us how you feel and ask for help. Thank you so much for trusting us with your thoughts. We know how difficult that can be, but we also know how great it is for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.  

We are really concerned to hear that you are feeling suicidal and want to die. You have a right to get help and support on how you are feeling right now. You have the right to feel safe and live a happy life. If you ever feel like you might be about to act on your suicidal feelings, you can call 999 or 112 and get help straight away. 

It can be difficult to know how to cope with suicidal feelings, have you spoken to a member of your family? Sometimes it may be difficult to open up to those close to us and tell them what is going on. But talking really does help. Do you have another trusted adult or person in your life who you feel comfortable talking to, if you feel that you cannot talk to your parents? This adult can be an aunt, uncle, teacher, or a school counsellor. You have the right to be listened to, to be heard, and to be supported. 

Getting help if you’re feeling suicidal is really important. There are some organisations that might be helpful to you such as:;; You may like to look at these websites as they might help you understand what is going on for you and they could offer you a direction in how to avail of other supports. The Childline website also has some articles which you could look at It is important for your own mental wellbeing that you get the help and support you deserve, as well as talking about what is making you want to die. 

If you feel that you cannot talk to anyone around you just now, Childline would really love to hear from you. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 666 666, by text at 50101 or through our web chat at Childline is here for you 24 hours a day, every day. Our services are free, confidential, and non-judgmental. We can support and help you look at what options are available to you.  

Remember, you do not have to go through this alone. Childline is here for you, whenever you would like to talk or chat. Telling someone you feel suicidal is a hard conversation, well done again on reaching out and starting your journey to recovery. 

Take care of yourself, we hope to hear from you soon,  


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