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Is it normal to feel embarrassed about having stains on my skirt

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Am I normal to feel embarrassed about not realising I have my boyfriends cum stains on my skirt. The night before we got really excited and I rubbed his penis and when he shot it got all over my skirt my friends have been asking what the stains are and I’m too embarrassed to explain


Hi, welcome to Ask Alex.  

Thank you for your question and thank you for making contacting with us.

You are asking is it normal to feel embarrassed about cum stains on your skirt. This can be a normal emotion and feeling when something personal like this happens.  

We have outlined some advice/recommendations of support for you below: 

  • If you have a trusted person that you feel you could talk to about your feelings around this, this could be a trusted friend, parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent, teacher, couch or youth worker? Trusted friends and adults can help deal with and manage these situations for you. 
  • have information and advice on sex and relationships if you wish to access this information go to and click the section Information where there is a drop down for information on sex and relationships.  
  • Sexual relationships is not something to be ashamed of so long as it is consensual and each person is comfortable. 
  • Dealing with these feelings of embarrassed can be difficult, but it is possible to work through them and accept that side of who you are.  
  • Another website that has lots of supports around relationships and sexuality is B4UDecide 

If you would like to chat with someone further about this then you could contact Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66, or through our web chat on Childline is here for you anytime; we are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It is a free and confidential service. We are non-judgemental, so it is a safe place for you to chat about whatever you want, whether it is a big issue or small. 

You can also go to our website, to access some information on topics that you may find helpful with some useful guidance and advice.  

Thank you for your question and we hope that you find some of the information above useful.    

Look after yourself, 


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