Alex's Answer

I'm trying to find out my sexuality

Your Question

I don’t think about having sex I am still a kid but I’ve watched programmes on Netflix. I am trying to find out my sexuality. So what would you say. 


Hi there, thanks for getting in touch with Ask Alex.  


It is really great to hear that you are enjoying what you are watching on TV at the moment. It is also completely normal to be trying to find out your sexuality and we know, as you have said, it can be hard to do.  


First of all, it is very sensible that you are not thinking about having sex as you are a child. These thoughts are normal also and as you get older you may have mixed feelings about sex and become a bit more curious. You may find it helpful to read this article on our website:


As mentioned, trying to find out your sexuality is a normal process to go through and many people have different experiences of this journey. Here are some key areas to help you as you go along:


BeLonG To provide a range of supports for all young people on different stages in this journey, they have groups that you may find helpful to join as other people your age may be going through similar feelings and experiences. You can find more about them here:


You may also find it helpful to talk to a friend or family member about trying to find out and learn about your sexuality. Know that it is important that you feel safe in doing so. You deserve to be listened to and to have your feelings heard. Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone.

If you feel that you are not ready yet to talk to someone you know yet, you are very welcome to chat with the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.   


Thank you for reaching out to us. Look after yourself,    


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