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I'm still uncomfortable years later

Your Question

am i overreacting? my dad used to touch my butt when i went upstairs and it made me uncomfortable to the point id run upstairs so he wouldnt be able to touch my butt again. the touching doesnt happen anymore but it still makes me uncomfortable and upset to this day. i was under 8 when this happened.


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It takes a lot of courage to talk about something like this, and we want you to know that we’re here to support you. It’s completely understandable that you felt uncomfortable with your dad’s actions, and it’s not ok for anyone to make you feel that way.
Even though the touching doesn’t happen anymore, it’s normal for memories and feelings associated with it to still affect you. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to take care of yourself.
If you feel comfortable, it might help to talk to someone you trust about what happened, like a family member, teacher, or counsellor. They can provide support and guidance as you process your emotions and decide what steps to take next, like considering seeking professional counselling.
If you’re not ready to talk to someone you know just yet, there are confidential resources available, like the Childline Team. We’re available 24/7 to listen and support you without judgment. You can reach us by phone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Messenger on our website, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle and starting a chat.
Remember, you’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help. Take care of yourself, and know that you deserve to feel safe and respected at all times.

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