Alex's Answer
I'm not a horrible person
Your Question
When I was 12, nearing 13, I had a friend- they were nearing 12. They kissed me once and I didn’t think much of it. Several months later, I kissed them- I don’t know why and I don’t know how the thought entered my head, but I did it. They kissed me back, so I thought ‘okay, they don’t mind.’ This occasional kissing occurred for several weeks, sometimes even they were the one to start it. We eventually stopped completely and it wasn’t brought up until several months later, and I was told that apparently they weren’t okay with it. I didn’t know this, and felt horrible. I talked it through with my friend and apologised. They said it was okay, and we left it be. Several months after that I apologised again- I felt horrible about it, truly. It’s been almost two years since the incident and still, it’s in the back of my mind every single day. I don’t know how to live with myself knowing I did this, even if at this point, I can barely remember it. I’ve apologised and they’ve said it’s okay, but still, I feel that I need to find closure and assure myself I’m not a horrible person; am I a horrible person? Was this my fault all along? Is an apology not enough? Do I need to do more?Â