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I'm feeling helpless

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I have two bestfriends, two good friends. One of my bestfriends goes to another school, and lately, it takes her days or weeks even to respond, she sends me pictures of her with her other friends, and almost all the text bubbles are mine. my other bestfriend wasnt in my class this year, and i feel like we’re slowly distancing… she’s made new friends and i feel like she doesnt like me anymore, or she thinks im weird or something. i feel like shes moving forward without me. (ive known her since preschool.) i dont know if i did something to them accidentally? its frustrating. i have my other friends but i still feel helpless and lonely. what do i do?

Answer

Hello, welcome to Ask Alex,
 
You are asking what to do as your two best friends seem to be taking longer to reply to you and are making new friends. This is making you feel helpless and lonely.
 
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and we want you to know that your feelings are completely valid. It’s not easy when friendships change, especially when you’ve known someone since preschool. First off, it’s important to know that people grow and change, and sometimes friendships evolve too.
 
It’s okay to feel frustrated and lonely, but try not to blame yourself. People have different priorities, and it doesn’t necessarily mean you did something wrong. Open communication is key – consider sharing your feelings with your friends. They might not be aware of how you’re feeling, and it could lead to a more understanding conversation.
 
Also, build the connections you have with your other friends. Sometimes new friendships can bring unexpected joy. Take on or take up activities you enjoy and that bring you closer to like-minded people. There are many articles on the Childline website around friendships, you may like to read some of them. You can find them here www.childline.ie/friends.
 
Lastly, friendships come and go throughout our lives, but it’s essential to focus on your well-being. Take some time for self-care, explore your interests, and you might discover new friendships along the way.
 

If you would like to reach out and talk to us some more, our Childline Team are here to help and support you too. We do not judge, and we can explore your options with you. You can contact us any time of the day or night, the Childline Listening service never closes, we are here for you 24/7/365. Our free-phone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie.

 
Remember, you’re not alone, and there are people who care about you. We hope to hear from you soon,
Alex
 

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