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I'm confused

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My best friend is confusing me, sometimes she’s really funny and we have a nice time laughing but sometimes I find it hurtful, I can’t say anything or I’ll lose her please help!


Hey there, thanks for getting in touch.
You’re telling us that you are getting mixed messages from your friend. Sometimes she can be great fun and you laugh together, but sometimes she can be hurtful.
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time with your friend, and we’re really sorry to hear that. It’s never easy when someone you care about leaves you feeling confused or hurt. Friendships are supposed to be supportive and uplifting, so it’s understandable that you’re struggling with this situation.
It’s great that you enjoy the fun times and laughter with your friend, but it’s important to recognise when something doesn’t feel right. Feeling hurt by someone you’re close to is a valid concern, and you shouldn’t have to brush it off or ignore your feelings to keep the friendship intact. Communication is key in any relationship, including friendships. Have you considered talking to your friend about how you feel? Sometimes, open and honest conversations can lead to a better understanding and stronger bond between friends. You might find this article helpful
However, if you’re worried about losing your friend by speaking up, it might be helpful to think about what kind of friend you want to have in your life. True friends respect each other’s feelings and make an effort to be supportive and kind. If your friend isn’t willing to listen and make changes to improve the friendship, it might be worth re-evaluating whether this is the kind of friendship you want to invest in. Here’s an article from the Childline website you might find useful
Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect in your friendships. If you ever need someone to talk to or support, please don’t hesitate to reach out to Childline. We’re here for you 24/7, ready to listen without judgment and offer confidential support. You’re not alone, and we’re here to help you through any challenges you may face. You can contact us by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at We’re always here for you, no matter the reason or time.
Take care of yourself, and know that you deserve to be treated properly, like the way you treat others,

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