Pat's Answer

I want to wear womens clothes

Your Question

Hey Pat, I want to wear flat shoes and women’s clothes but afraid of reactions


Welcome, thank you for contacting the service. 

You are saying that you have feelings to wear women’s clothes and flat shoes, but you mention you are afraid of people’s reactions to this. Would we be right in thinking that you are male, wanting to wear female clothes? It sounds like these must be very strong feelings. Well done on reaching out, we know that it can be hard to do that at times. You have a right to your feelings and it is really good to talk about what is on your mind. 

It is understandable that you are fearful of other people’s reactions to seeing you in the clothes and shoes you wish to wear. Perhaps you already wear the clothes in private and you are thinking now about opening up more. How would you feel about talking to someone about this? Would you have a friend or a trusted adult you could speak too. You have the right to talk about your feelings with someone and seek support. 

Have you heard about the websites or There are lots of articles on these websites which may be helpful to you. The Childline website also has some articles about identity and our individual uniqueness that you may be interested in reading further

Maybe you might like to contact Childline? We are here to listen to you. Childline services are free and available to you through web chat at or if you prefer to phone and speak to us, the number is 1800 66 66 66. We also have a text service where you can text us at 51010. You are very welcome to get in contact with us and we will listen to everything that is going on for you. There is not a good or bad time to phone us. Childline is open twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Any of our Team would love to hear from you and discuss your feelings. We can help you explore some options that may be available to you. Every call, text or chat we get is important to us, so please know that you will be most welcome.  

It was great hearing from you, and we would like if you would get in contact with us again. 

Take care of yourself and be safe,  


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