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I want to make them proud

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Hi Alex, I think i might be have ADHD but I’m not entirely sure. I feel sometimes that Im a burden to everyone else sometimes. I can be very loud and hyper and then other times distracted and forgetful and lazy. Ive seen people on tiktok say this is normal for people with ADHD and know im beginning to notice some of the signs in myself. It runs in the family but when i told my parents they told me I was just being silly and that i was just different. I think im annoying them and my friends, and all ive ever wanted to do was make them proud, but im not very good at it.

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Hello, thanks for getting in touch with us,
 
First off, we want to say that you’re incredibly brave for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to open up about personal struggles, especially when you’re unsure about what you’re experiencing. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to look for help and support.
 
Feeling like you might have ADHD can be overwhelming, especially when you’re not sure what’s going on. It’s important to remember that ADHD is a real condition, and the symptoms you’re describing are common among individuals with ADHD. It’s not just “being silly” or “being different” – it’s a legitimate concern that deserves attention, understanding and more so, a professional diagnosis.
 
We can imagine how it must feel to worry about being a burden to others and not living up to their expectations. But please know that you are not defined by your challenges, and you are not a burden. Your friends and family care about you, and they want to see you happy and thriving. It’s okay to lean on them for support and to ask for help when you need it. This article from the Childline website may be useful for you www.childline.ie/what-is-adhd/.
 
It’s also important to explore your options for getting the support you need. Talking to a trusted adult, like a school counsellor or a healthcare professional, can be a good first step. They can help you by giving you the correct diagnosis, to understand your symptoms better and connect you with resources and support services that can make a difference in your life. Here is the website for adhdireland.ie/general-information/which is an organisation offering support for people with ADHD. Note, they also say that receiving an accurate diagnosis it crucial before you can receive the correct supports for you, as every person who has ADHD is different.
 
Remember, you are never alone in this journey. The Childline team is here for you, ready to listen and support you in any way we can. Whether you want to talk on the phone (1800 66 66 66) or chat online (through Live Chat on Childline.ie), we’re available 24/7 to provide a safe space for you to express yourself and explore your options. You deserve to feel heard, understood, and supported, and we’re here to help you every step of the way.
 
Take care, and know that brighter days are ahead. You’ve already taken the first step towards understanding and addressing your concerns, and that’s something to be proud of. Keep reaching out for support, and remember that you are valuable and lovable just as you are.
 
Alex

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