Alex's Answer

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We want to provide support and understanding to those who need care and assistance in their lives at present. Sharing what we feel helps clarify our emotions and allows us to access the guidance and support we’re entitled to.

 

You have stated, ‘I want to die, but I think my friend might also want to kill themselves, so I feel the need to help them and not deal with my problems until I know they are safe. Because I really don’t want them to end up like me, but maybe they are already like me or worse… I don’t know what to do.’ It sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment, and you are finding things difficult. We are really sorry to hear that you want to end your life; this is cause for great concern. We want you to know that if you ever find yourself in a dangerous situation, please contact the Gardaí at 112 or 999; these are free emergency contact numbers.

 

You have already shown through what you have said above that you are a kind, considerate, and wonderful friend. What is happening in your life that is making you feel this way? You have mentioned putting your problems aside for your friend, and it sounds like you are supporting them through a very difficult time in their life. Supporting others is a fantastic quality, but if you cannot look after yourself, you will struggle to help others around you. Have you tried speaking with a professional about your thoughts? We would suggest that you take the time to help yourself, and as a result, you will be better able to support your friend.

 

Are your parents or carers aware of what is going on for you? It would be a good idea to bring it to their attention so that you have the support to find the path to get help. Visiting your local GP can be a good start as they can provide referrals to different mental health organizations such as CAMHS or Pieta House. Here are some of the services you can turn to for support regarding suicide ideation and self-harming, such as Pieta House at www.pieta.ie, which offers a free crisis helpline at 1800 247 247 or text HELP to 51444. There is also the Samaritans (www.samaritans.org/ireland/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/), which offers a free phone service at 116 123.

 

It is important to know that you don’t have to go down this path alone and that you have the right to feel supported. You deserve to be well in yourself, and we hope that the above information will guide you there.

 

Please reach out to the Childline Team who are there for you 24/7. Your call or chat is confidential, but should you wish to give identifying information about yourself, we can get in touch with the Gardaí or Túsla on your behalf. 1800 66 66 66 is the phone number and you can access our webchat at www.childline.ie and click on  the Live Chat tab.

 

Take care of yourself, and please reach out for support soon, you deserve it,

Alex