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I want someone to love me

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my mom calls me names like selfish and pervert and fat i also have no friends im lonely and i hate myself i just wnt somoe to love me i sorry for bad spelling ihave dyslexia im also autistic im a nerd too im a boy i used to have a best friend but she would hug me and play with my hair she was like a sister to me and i loved her our parents fought so i havent seen her since 2018 also my dads an alcaholic so yesh i hate myself alo

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Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.
 
Thank you for contacting us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, or what’s going on for us, but we also know how important it is to talk about it.
 
Reaching out to Ask Alex is a huge step forward in seeking help.
 
Reach Out for Support; here are somethings you can try:
 
Try to talk to someone you trust about what you’re going through, whether it’s a teacher, counsellor, or another family member. They may be able to offer support and guidance.
 
If you’re comfortable, consider joining clubs or groups that align with your interests, whether it’s related to your passion for basketball or any other hobbies. This can be a way to meet new people and build connections.
 
Take small steps to care for yourself. This might involve engaging in activities you enjoy, setting aside time for relaxation, and ensuring you get enough sleep and exercise.
 
Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process what you’re going through. It can also help you identify patterns and areas where you might want to focus on self-improvement.
 
If you feel comfortable, express to your mom how her words are affecting you. It’s possible she may not be aware of the impact her words are having on your well-being. It’s essential to recognise your own worth and value. You are not defined by the challenges you face, and there are people who care about you.
 
Embrace your passions and interests. Being a “nerd” is not a negative thing; it’s a reflection of your unique qualities and strengths.
 
If you’re in a situation where your dad’s alcoholism is causing distress, consider reaching out to a trusted adult, teacher, or counsellor for support. Your safety and well-being are of utmost importance.
 
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and there are people and resources available to support you. You are not alone in this, and reaching out is a brave and important step.
 
You can always reach out to Childline if you feel you would like to talk through things a little more. You can contact the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on www.childline.ie. You can start a chat by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.
 
We hope that some of the above information is of use to you. Please keep reaching out and know that there are supports out there that can help you.
 
Take care of yourself,
Alex

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