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I want my mam to love me

Your Question

How do I get my mam to love me?


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you so much for reaching out to us and trusting us with your thoughts. We know it can be a difficult thing to do, but we also know how great it is for young people to share their thoughts and their emotions. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.
You asked, “How do you get your mam to love you?” It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time in your life, and here at Ask Alex, we believe that each person has the right to feel safe, happy, and loved within their family environment.
It can be useful to talk to others about this. Would you have a trusted adult in your life that you could discuss it with at all? This can be a family member like an aunt, uncle, grandparent, or someone outside of the family like a teacher, neighbour, or sports coach. You might find that some of the adults you know may have experienced similar feelings when they were younger, and they might be able to provide you with advice.
It’s important to remember that you are worthy of love and affection just as you are. Sometimes, the love we seek from others may take time to fully understand and express. While it’s natural to want love and validation from our parents, it’s also essential to practice self-love and acceptance within ourselves.
Consider practicing self-care activities that bring you joy and comfort. Whether it’s pursuing hobbies, spending time with supportive friends, or engaging in relaxation techniques like meditation or journaling, prioritising your well-being can help nurture a sense of inner strength and resilience. Perhaps there is an activity that you and your mam can do together which may help tin building your relationship
Remember, you can always phone Childline on 1800 66 66 66 to talk about what is going on for you if you don’t feel ready to talk to someone in your life quite yet. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our Live Chat service through is also available 24/7. We are here to listen to and support you, and to help you to explore the options that are available to you in your life. We are here to help you in a way that suits you.
Look after yourself and know that you do not have to face anything alone, Childline is here for you, any reason, any time,

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