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I think my friend is depressed, how do I support her?

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My friend has changed alot recently. she never comes out to us and she says she feels sad all the time. i think she might be depressed and i’d like to help her but i dont know what to do 

Answer

Hi there, 

Thank you for contacting us here at Ask Alex. 

It sounds like you are worried about your friend, as she’s changed a lot recently and you’re thinking that she might be depressed. You sound like a really caring friend who wants to help her, and it can be hard to know what to do in these sorts of situations. 

Simply talking and listening to your friend can be a big help. Giving your friend that listening ear and space to talk may encourage her to share what’s going on for her right now. What do you think that might be like for you? There is an article about listening to friends here: https://www.childline.ie/listening-to-friends/ 

What kind of things did you and your friend enjoy doing together? Maybe even something simple like going for a walk or going to the cinema together would be something you could both enjoy, and it may be a simple reminder for her that she has your support. 

If you are feeling very worried about your friend, then talking to someone else like a trusted adult may be an option for you. This could be a family member, a teacher or someone else you feel comfortable talking to. Talking with someone else could help you figure out the best way you could support your friend. 

There is also professional support out there for your friend if she is experiencing depression. Maybe she is already receiving help, but if not, you could encourage her to see her doctor or a counsellor.  

Supporting a friend who is going through a tough time can be tiring and draining so it is important to mind yourself and look after your own mental wellbeing too. Remember to take some time out if you need it and engage in activities that you enjoy, that lift your spirits. 

We are always here for you at Childline to listen and support you, 24/7. We have an online chat at https://www.childline.ie/ or our phone number is 1800 66 66 66. You can always let your friend know that they can contact Childline too. 

You have been really brave to get in touch with us here at Ask Alex, and we hope some of what we’ve said is helpful for you.  

Take care,  

Alex 

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