I like one of my best friends
|I like a girl but she’s one of my best friends and I don want to ruin my friendship with her by asking her out
Hey there, thanks for your question,
You like one of your best friends and are worried asking her out will ruin your friendship.
First of all, it’s totally normal to feel a bit anxious about expressing your feelings, especially when it involves a close friend. It takes courage to open up about emotions. Remember, you’re not alone in with these thoughts, and many teenagers and grown=ups too, experience similar situations.
It’s essential to approach this with sensitivity. Consider starting the conversation by expressing how much you value your friendship. Let her know that your feelings have evolved and that you wanted to be honest with her. Emphasise that, regardless of her response, you still cherish your friendship and want her to feel comfortable being honest with you too.
Reassure her that whatever her response, it won’t change the bond you share. Friendships can withstand honesty, and even if she doesn’t feel the same way, acknowledging the situation maturely can help both of you move forward. Remember, open communication is key in any relationship, whether it’s romantic or platonic.
Then, give her the time and space to process your feelings. It’s important to respect her emotions and decisions, whatever they may be. You’re showing maturity and respect by approaching this with thoughtfulness, and that’s a quality that can strengthen any relationship. This is an article you may find helpful, www.childline.ie/what-are-relationships/.
If you would like to talk about this some more, anonymously, our Childline Team are here to help and support you too. We do not judge, and we can explore your options with you. You can contact us any time of the day or night, the Childline Listening service never closes, we are here for you 24/7/365. Our free-phone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie.
We hope all goes well for you. Remember we are here for you anytime, even if you would like to practice what you might say to your friend first.
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